There was a time when my son was discouraged in life. He stopped working and locked himself inside his bedroom. His wife and three small children, the twins were barely six months, kept knocking on his bedroom door but he refused to open it up for them. He just lied on his stomach on the floor feeling all the weight in life on his shoulder and feeling so helpless like he was on the dead end in his life’s journey. He was on hunger strike and was in this condition for a week so his wife was worried and came to me for help, she was worried that he might commit suicide.
He was very young, only 21 years old with three small children aged 5 years old and the twins 6 months who needed his support. He was working hard as a computer programmer and analyst but it seemed like he could not earn an income enough to feed his young family and to pay all the bills and the house rent. The one thing that really triggered his despair was when he was cheated on by a business partner who took all the money that he worked hard for, he lost trust in people around him.
Needless to say, I love my son and I can understand his burden but I am not also the kind of mother who would consent to the weakness and discouragement of my son by supplying him the money that he needed momentarily. So, I went to his house and it was good that he opened the door for me but won’t let his wife nor his children come in.
In our conversation, he laid down to me what caused him to lock himself and stopped talking to his family and also his plans, one of which was to go back to Mindanao, stop working and just depend on his father to support his family.
I opened my mouth to speak to him with this statement, “ In your situation now, I only have three powerful words for you to ponder”, my son interrupted me by saying “Momma, in my situation now I don’t need a sermon, what will solve my present problem is P20,000 ($400.) and I will be alright.”
His problem actually at that time was sort of complicated. There were two depressing situations that were consuming him. First was that he was given P20,000 as advance payment for a website that he was going to develop for a business friend, an Englishman by the name Frank. He received the money which should have been just enough to buy a modem and to install a telephone which were necessary at that time for him to start the job, without these gadgets, he could not start working but his wife took all the money to pay the five-month overdue house-rent because if they cannot pay the rent immediately they will be ejected. The wife also spent all the money for other family needs such as milk for the babies and food. My son’s worry was that Frank will lost trust in him because he was not able to start on the job required on him and that Frank might accuse him of fraud. And the other was his previous business partner cheated on him the much-needed money amounting P130,000 ($2,500).
I understood fully my son’s dilemma at that time but knowing that problems resolve themselves and life supports itself, I did not give the needed amount to my son but I told him that what I was about to tell him if he will just listen for a moment would give him all the money he could ever need throughout his life, it would not come from me but it would come to him direct from the Source; and that I may be able to give him what he needed at the moment but I may not be able to supply him all the financial problems that he would encounter in the future. With these words my son sat up and lean on the wall, it was a sign to me that he was allowing himself to be patient to listen to me.
After an hour of sermon to my son, he said “Momma allow me to be young, I am not yet middle aged to think the way you do but I think you have the point.”
Then I left and just as I stepped outside the gate of his apartment Frank arrived and after some time of honest conversation between them Frank eventually gave him more money, installed the telephone and bought all the necessary gadgets to start his job, my son’s fear of being accused of being a fraud never happened; he explained his situation to Frank and Frank understood him reason why he gave him more money.
Now the three words. First is “Remember” next is “Love” and last is “Faith”. Here I will elaborate why these three words are so powerful especially when you are at the lowest point of your life.
First, I would like to remind here that problems are just lessons in life that we are going to face and tackle wisely. If problems seem so huge, whatever it maybe we have the power to turn them small and surmountable. It’s in the mental attitude of the subject. If you think that your problem is huge and beyond your ability to solve and you feel like you want to run away from it, remember that it’s your mental attitude towards a problem that make it monstrous so wherever you go it follows you and whatever you do will always result to becoming another problem and worse it gets bigger and bigger.
Given the precedent as right, we cannot run away from problems, we have to face them and dissolve them.
The question then is how do we dissolve problems in life? Answer is to use your inherent power that is just lying dormant within you. Use these three words that are so powerful to live by.
Remember… Remind yourself to remember who you are and what you are. Remember you are a precious soul in the eyes and heart of God. Remember that Jesus died for you. If you are not a Christian, remember that you are a part of this universe and you have something to contribute to the welfare of humanity. Remember your love for yourself, remember where you are good at. Remember those who love you. Remember your past achievements and what else you can do and become in the future. Remember how you were able to solve and surpassed past problems that you had encountered. Remember you are here in life because you are victorious, you are a winner. Remember that at the time of your conception there were millions of zygotes who raced towards being fertilized in your mother’s egg to become human and you championed them all and most of all remember that problems resolve themselves and life supports itself. The bottom line is to remember all the good experiences and the beauty of life and living.
Love…The second powerful word is LOVE. First love yourself for being you including your faults and flaws. See in your mind’s eye how lovable you are, how good you are in something. Then see in your mind’s eye your loved ones, parents, children, spouse, lover, etc. scrutinize what make them so lovable. Also see in your mind’s eye those beautiful things that you admire, possessing them and enjoying them, feel the joy of having them.
Faith…Last but not least, let faith do miracles in your situation now and your whole life. Have faith in the saying “This too will pass. “Problems resolve themselves.” “God will take care of me” The point is to fill your mind with powerful statements and affirmations to inspire you to act positively to face your situation. Be honest to yourself and to every person that you are dealing with. If you are at fault accept your fault with humility. Forgive and apologize. Un burden yourself from any negative situations and trust that things will work out right for you.
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